Transform lives of single lady's or daddy's.

27/07/2026

A destiny helper doesn't always give money.

Sometimes they offer a job.
Sometimes they connect you to the right person.
Sometimes they give wise advice.
Sometimes they open a door you've been praying for.
Sometimes they simply encourage you not to give up.

Never underestimate the power of one act of kindness. A single conversation, recommendation, or opportunity can completely change someone's life.

If you have been blessed, consider being a blessing to someone else today. It doesn't have to be big—it just has to come from the heart. ❤️

And if you're waiting for your own destiny helper, don't lose hope. Keep believing, keep praying, and keep showing kindness to others. You never know when your breakthrough will come.

Together, we are building a community where kindness connects people across the world.

Share, share, share to reach out to more people!

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24/07/2026

Amen

08/07/2026

It is dangerous to remain surrounded by people who only know your yesterday when God is doing something new in your life. They will struggle to believe what God is revealing because they are attached to your past instead of your purpose.

Not everyone can discern a new season. Some will continue to see who you were, while God is calling you into who you are becoming.

Protect the new thing God is doing until it is established.

“Remember not the former things… Behold, I am doing a new thing.” — Isaiah 43:18–19

04/06/2026

02/06/2026

Church Life _Single parent friendly?
Many church programmes are not 'user friendly ' towards single parents. Parenting is often exclusively connected with marriage in a way that makes single parents feel alienated , and evening meetings are often very difficult for single parents to attend if they have young children, because of the cost of baby_ sitting. Single parents, because of their background, may expect to be let down and may seem over-sensitive in their reactions to what they mistakenly take for rejection. It is vitally important then that attention is paid to removing any practical obstacles to involvement in the life of the fellowship. if there are mid week meetings, perhaps it would be possible to arrange babysitting rotas amongst parents , to enable people to attend. Would it be possible for someone living nearby to give the family a lift to church meetings?
The church can hold on to it's tradition of teaching on marriage based family life as an ideal both within the church and in public life. But it also needs to develop because parenting has become separated from marriage. Some of the consequences of this have been analysed in the section on personal issues. Many single parents have been through very painful experiences and need deep and sustained ministry from the church, as well as reliable long term friendships.
In the same ' way' it is important that a welcoming attitude is cultivated among members of the congregation, and this is likely to happen when it is effectively modelled by those in leadership.
It is difficult, but quite possible, with a little thought and a lot of encouragement, to integrate single parents into the life of a church and for them to grow into fruitful members of the Body of Christ. In the long run, the most valuable thing that a church could do would be to help single parents to an extent that they themselves were able to minister God's love and help both to other single parents and indeed to the rest of the ch

31/05/2026

THE NEED TO VALUE PARENTING WITHIN THE CHURCH.
It is vital that churches take the important task of parenting seriously and seek to support those who are parents in their fellowship and locality. Marriage, singleness and parenting all have integrity before God and this should be recognized in the local church.
There are several things that churches could do to help.
. People in the church could really seek to understand the life of the single parent.
. Single parents and their children could be identified and welcomed into the church.
.The needs of single parents in the congregation could be considered when planning teaching and ministry.
. Churches could consider how they might be able to meet some practical needs in the single parents life.
. Opportunities for single parents to minister within the church should be created.
Ideally a church should have someone who understands single parents on its leadership team, so that the needs of, and opportunities for, single parents are included in the church programme. This could include specific activities to appeal to those who are outside the church. Time needs to be spent listening to single parents who can articulate how the church appears from their point of view. It is very difficult for someone who has been in that situation to understand their life.
What is primarily required is the time needed to develop a relationship of trust, and the willingness to listen very carefully to what the single parent is saying about their life.
It is also important for those who are parenting as part of a married couple not to impose solutions that work for them on to the problem faced by single parents.

25/05/2026

SINGLE PARENTS SOCIAL PROBLEMS.
Churches can sometimes assume that single parents have endless problems and don't have much to give to the local church. They experience rejection in church because they are perceived as the following.
1. Threatener. Their unmarried status seems like a threat to intact marriages.
2. Failure. They are seen as having 'blown it' and incapable of managing their own lives.
3.Alienator. They don't fit in with marrieds because they don't have spouses. They don't fit in with singles because they have children. They just don't fit in.
4.Parasite.They are needy, They will suck you dry. They take, take, take and never give back.
Most commonly, single parents are seen as a problem. Little thought is given to their potential as Christians and leaders. If any thought is given to their situation, it is usually only concerned with meeting the needs that they present, an approach that can easily wear out someone trying to help.
Typically in a church programme, single parenting, if it is considered at all, will be seen as a social problem, to be tackled in a separate slot of its own, instead of being integrated with the church's, mainstream programme of teaching on relationships and parenting.

18/05/2026

Divorce and separation of parents.

A separated or divorced single parent will most probably have significant emotional hurts. Many struggle with feelings of inadequacy and failure, which can make new relationships much harder to form. Some single parents will become christians since their separation or divorce , for others, it has happened while they are christians.Others in the local church may seem judgmental about the divorce and feel that in some way they do not deserve support. This can serve to reinforce the rejection that divorced single parents sometimes feel in the church..

For many families, divorce can be more traumatic than the death of a parent _ there is no 'closure' to the situation, and tensions can often rumble on for years. There is also a sense of rejection, which does not occur when a parent has died. Children find the separation or divorce of their parents an especially difficult time. They are often bewildered and hurt, and many feel that somehow the situation is their fault. This can provide pastoral challenges for children or youth workers who know them. Next episode Tomorrow.

21/03/2026

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07/03/2026

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Peter Musembi Mbolu, Joseph Kirugu