09/07/2024
Narcissists are mentally unstable people if you ask me, because what in the world is this type of behaviour?!... it is always better to spot them early and flee
.. cos this type of people do not worth a thing...
A narcissist is a parasite; that is as simple as I can put it. They need to latch onto others like leeches and suck the blood, take the fuel, and take the supply to survive, which means they are more dependent on us than we are on them. But they want to hide it. They want to hide their parasitic and predatory nature. They want to come across as strong, superior, better, and bigger than everyone else. But deep down, you are dealing with very insecure, hollow, empty beings, and that is what their reality is.
When it comes to having a regret or feeling bad about losing something, the way they form the regret they feel is not exactly what you would call a regret or how you feel a regret. For example, if you lose something, if you break up, if you lose a job or something, you may think, 'I should have tried more,' or 'I should have looked at this. I should have done this.' That is what regret means to you.
But a narcissist lives in a very tunnelled vision-like world and experiences the world through a tunnel division where the objects and the people exist only if they have something to offer, if they are serving the false self of the narcissist in any way, which means if you were the primary supply of the narcissist, the first-grade supply, if you were offering them the attention, the money, the s*x, or anything that they needed from you, then you were the kind of supply that they wanted to retain in their life.
Not because they loved you, not because they cared for you, not because they wanted to save this relationship for the sake of saving it. They wanted to keep you there because they were getting benefits from you in different ways, in ways they were not getting from any other source of supply.
So when it comes to regret, a narcissist does not experience regret the way you do. Regret for a narcissist means that I should have tried more to retain this person in my life, not because I love them, but because these are the benefits I have lost. Now these are the things that I would have to look for in another person. That means more hard work, more manipulation, and more love bombing, which they love, of course, but they still have to put in a lot of work to get the other person in line. Retaining someone is easier than finding a new one. So they regret having a servant in their life; they regret having a money-dispensing machine; they regret having a maid; they regret having a person who would give them all the attention and love in the world.
Culled from Quora
