06/10/2025
One day, I calmly called a mother to inform her about a behavior her son had been exhibiting. Before I could even finish explaining, this boy had already received five hot slaps.
It didn’t end there —
She was shouting, pulling his ear, crying and beating him all at once. I just stood there, speechless.
I couldn’t even calm her because she was already in full breakdown mode.
Right there, she started listing how the boy has been “disgracing” her:
In school,
In church,
At home…
She talked about how she’s “suffering to give him everything,” how he lacks nothing, how she works hard for him… and in that moment, I regretted reporting him.
Not because the child didn’t need correction,
But because what that child needed was guidance — not violence.
Many parents don’t correct children, they vent on them.
They don’t listen, they react.
They don’t teach, they humiliate.
And tomorrow, they’ll say, “I don’t know why my child hides things from me.”
Some of you don’t realize this:
Your children are not misbehaving because they are stubborn.
They are misbehaving because:
You have never sat them down to talk
You don’t teach, you only shout
You use fear instead of instruction
You think beating is parenting
You won’t guide them when it matters, but you’ll disgrace them when it shows.
That day taught me something:
Some parents don’t need complaints — they need counselling.
Because when your parenting is built on anger, shame and public drama, your child will learn to fear you, not learn from you.
I am Goodness Henry, a faith-based family life coach and trauma-informed healing advocate. I teach singles and married people how to love wisely, live healed, and build homes that last. I’m also the voice behind The Rebuilder’s Circle, a safe place for real transformation.
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