05/05/2025
There are many factors that will put you under pressure when marriage is not coming your way, If you are not married, you know the badgering of marriage begins sometime in your mid twenties and peaks in your thirties. It becomes more arm-twisting when you've been married, but later crashes for one reason or the other, then you are back to the searching market.
At the moment of want, people go extra mile to do things they should not ordinarily do, especially when the pressure is coming from parents, family, relatives, friends and sometimes even unspecified associations, indeed, the society has a way of mounting calls on you. Interestingly, when people around you are getting married, having babies, etc, it will get at you. Sometimes, the pressure gets so difficult to handle that it can lead to anxiety and even depression.
When you feel pressured to get married, it is because that's more like a societal norm, religiously, it is so rewarding, and it is incredible and marvelous having your family, this is the dream of many. So, when the opportunity is not coming, one becomes worried. At least, you will be asking questions; could it be a spiritual or physical problem?
The moment the pressure gets so intolerable, you will see some men or women rush into a relationship or marriage without due diligence, just to regret it later - simply because they did not allow themselves time to really conduct a thorough process. It is your life, though, but do not live it in isolation. Be honest with yourself. Take into consideration all the factors and give yourself some time to figure things out.
Getting married should always be your decision to make and not someone else's. You need personal conviction to scale through the process without committing blunders, but if you allow the pressure to take the better part of you, it is possible to wink in the dark. It is quite normal to feel out-of-place and paranoid when everyone around you is getting married, but take note you are not the only one in that situation, still you must not get married for the wrong reasons.
Obviously, people who marry their partners with the mentality that marrying will fix all existing problems in their lives are totally wrong, the institution is not a rehabilitation center where clinical trials are done, you should rather get yourself properly prepared for the marital journey. If you want to avoid pressures, make the informed decision on marriage early in life. It comes with merits.
In the search for blissful marital experience, your Arabic and Western exposure will not be enough, you need marital knowledge, so seek fervent prayer, relationship and marriage class, therapeutic counseling, get some information about the best institution in human history before marriage, if you are not the problem preventing you from getting married or keeping a happy marriage, then it could be your ignorance, that is why knowledge is needed.
Always pay attention to details.
