12/12/2025
Since I got married, my husband has always said clearly that he doesn’t owe my family anything. When he was working and doing well, he never sent anything to my people. Anytime my mum asked me to tell my husband to help her with something, I would hustle from my own money and send it to her. She usually thought it was from my husband and would even call to thank him.
Now things have changed. Since the beginning of this year, my husband’s business has been going badly, and this December he doesn’t have money to send to his own mother or buy things for her. So I went to the market with my own money and bought enough foodstuff and rice to send to my mum. I was arranging everything to send today when my husband saw it and asked what I was sending to his mother.
I told him that I was not sending anything to his mum because I didn’t budget for her. That was when trouble started. He began to in$ult me and called me w!cked. He said I don’t treat his mother the way I treat mine and that I’m supposed to send to both mothers, not only my own.
I asked him a simple question, when last did you ever send anything to my mum or see her as your own mother? You never did. So why is it now that I should see your mum as mine, when you never saw my mum as yours?
Since then, he has been carrying face and refusing to talk to me. But honestly, I don’t feel guilty. I’ve always been the one taking care of my mother from my own pocket, and I don’t think it’s fair for me to add his mother to my responsibility when he never added mine to his.
Please people, did I do anything wrong? I really need sincere advice.
Me: You didn't do anything wrong after all, I would have done the same thing, since he told me that he has nothing to do with my family most especially my mum hmmm. Well I will get his mum something once but I don't think I will be consistent with it, just to let him knw that I value mothers regardless ❤️
