08/28/2026
I'm guessing I'm not alone, since I'm pretty sure most everyone finds up their life as full as time allows. But looking at David i look and often wonder all of the mom things. Am I meeting his needs, ask if them, physiological, psychological, social, developmental.
Like really what is my goal for mothering. Is it that my child never has a bad day, or i never do anything wrong? I'm way too realistic to expect either of those to be possible.
So then you can think i want a successful child, but what did that look like, and how does what i do help encourage success, what does that look like? For us at this house it looks like fostering independence by allowing him to struggle, first noise does not mean he's asking for help, but that he's frustrated. It's impressively challenging to notice your child struggling. Just watch and wait for him to show me what he wants my help with.
The problem I've found with this is one day you may look over and find your 1 yo
preparing the sauna stove for fire wispering "hot hot hot"
fixing the screen door,
checking on the breaks of your pickup,
Doing the dishes in the sink
"Fixing" his own bike with a hammer
But you'll also find him stomping his feet in frustration when you take him away from something sketchy, or when you're in a rush and you just finish what he's helping with but it's taking too long.
Anyways the real question any family wonders, are we doing it right and are we appreciating what we have just the right amount?